|My Life as
I Am a Moslem Woman
They differed with me over what times we are living in.
It is not a democracy when a man can talk about politics without
anyone threatening him.
Democracy is when a woman can talk of her lover without anyone
Dr. Sauad M. Al-Sabah
I am a Moslem woman. I have no face. I have no identity. At age 9,
based on lunar year (a lunar year is twelve months of 28 days each
or 336 days) or, when I am actually 8 years and 8 months old, I am
considered an adult. Being an adult means that I have to adhere with
Islamic laws as stated below.
I have to pray five times a day, fast one month out of the year and
cover myself from head to toe in yards of black fabric. I am
eligible to be married and can be punished for any wrong doing. I
can be incarcerated and, if needed, executed for my crimes, even
Islam's law - that Allah sent down to his messenger Muhammad - came
to announce that women (exactly like men) are full human beings.
Women (like men) are therefore required to follow the way appointed
"A woman (like a man) is therefore obligated with all three degrees
of this religion: Islam (outward submission to Allah), iman (inward
faith in Allah), and ihsan (perfection of worship of Allah)".
"Women have such honorable rights as obligations, but men have a
(single) degree above them". The Koran 2:228
"Men are the managers of the affairs of women because Allah has
preferred men over women and women were expended of their Rights".
The Koran 4:34
Islam believes and promotes only one relationship between male and
female and that is the relation of lust.
"If a man and a woman are alone in one place, the third person
present is the devil". Prophet Mohammed
I am not allowed to swim, ski, ride a bike, dance, learn to play
musical instruments, practice gymnastics, or any other sport. I am
not even permitted to watch men play sports, either in the stadium
and/or on television.
I am not permitted to participate in Olympic games.
From age 7, I am segregated from all males in and out of my extended
My father, grandfather, uncles, brothers or my male cousins are not
allowed to be present at any ceremonies for my accomplishments. They
will not be allowed to participate in my birthday parties.
I have to study under female teachers and professors. However, since
women of prior generations were not allowed to go to school, there
are not that many qualified women teachers and professors. Male
professors must teach me from behind a wall.
I am to be treated by female doctors. Go to female dentists. And if
there are none, then I have to go without or I must be examined
through some sort of divider.
I am not allowed to practice birth control or have abortions, even
if carrying or having a child means I have to die.
My worth is based on the Islamic Laws of Retribution, 24th edition,
December 1982, as half of a man. It doesn't matter who I am, how
educated I am, and what earning potential I may have in my life. My
worth is half of a man, any man.
According to clauses 33 and 91 of the law in respect, Qasas (The
Islamic Retribution Bill) and its boundaries, the value of woman is
considered only half as much as the value of a man.
Article 1: dieh or blood money paid to the victim or next of kin for
as compensation for bodily injury or murder of a relative.
The Islamic Law of Retribution
In the old Islamic laws, recently placed into practice by the
Islamic Republic of Iran, the worth of a man's life is equal to the
market value of 100 camels or 200 cows and that of a woman is equal
to half of the man's, 50 camels or 100 cows.
The clause number 6 regarding the dieh (cash value of the fine)
states that the cash fine for murdering a woman intentionally or
unintentionally is half as much as for a man. The same clause adds
that if a man intentionally murders a woman and the guardian of the
woman himself is not able to pay half of the Dieh (the value of 50
camels or 100 cows, the difference between the value of a man to
that of a woman's life) to the murderer, the murderer will be
exempted from retribution.
New Legal Standing: Pursuant to article 85 of the constitution, the
Islamic penal code was implemented in December 1981. According to
article 300, blood money or dieh, a sum paid to the next of kin as
compensation for the murder of a relative, is twice as much in the
case of a murdered man as in the case of a woman. The number of
witnesses required to prove a crime is higher if the witnesses are
female. For example, article 237 of the penal code states that first
degree murder must be proven by testimony of two just men and
evidence for second-degree murder or manslaughter requires the
testimony of two just men, or one just man and two just women, or of
one just man and the accuser.
My testimony in a court of law is equal to half of that of a man. In
most countries I don't vote and I don't get elected to office. And
if I do, it does not mean much. I inherit only half as much as my
I cannot get custody of my children. Even if their father dies. In
the case of divorce or death I have to surrender my children to
their father and/or his family.
I cannot travel, work, go to college, join organizations, even visit
my friends and relatives without my father or husband's permission.
I must live where my husband desires.
I am banned from studies such as engineering, agriculture,
archaeology, restoration of the historic monuments and handicrafts,
and many other fields. I am not allowed to become a judge.
Under the terms of Koranic law, any judge fulfilling the seven
requirements (that he have reached puberty, be a believer, know the
Koranic laws perfectly, be just, and not be affected by amnesia, or
be a bastard, or be of the female sex) is qualified to dispense
justice in any type of case.
I have no right to choose the clothing I wear in public. This is
done by the Office of the Islamic Guidance which sets the color, the
style, and the accessories for women and girls as young as 6 years
I will get arrested, beaten, and sometimes even executed if I wear
make-up, nylons, bright colors and specifically the color of red.
I cannot choose my mate and am not permitted to divorce him if
things did not work out.
According to Khomeini, the Iranian Islamic Imam, "The most suitable
time for a girl to get married is the time when the girl can have
her first menstrual period in her husband's house rather than her
I have to meet all my husband's desires including the sexual ones.
And if I refuse he has the right to deny me food, shelter, and all
of life's necessities. I have to say yes every time he wants to have
According to Hojatoleslam Imani, Religious Leader in Iran. "A woman
should endure any violence or torture imposed on her by her husband
for she is fully at his disposal. Without his permission she may not
leave her house even for a good action (such as charitable work).
Otherwise her prayers and devotions will not be accepted by God and
curses of heaven and earth will fall upon her".
My husband can divorce me without my knowledge and by the Islamic
law he is required to support me for only 100 days. And if he dies,
I am entitled to 1/8 of his Estate.
I can only ask for divorce if my husband is impotent, if he does not
have sex with me at least one night in every forty nights, and if he
refuses to provide me with a minimum standard of living.
My husband can have four permanent wives and if he is from Shi'i
sect, he can have as many temporary wives as he wants.
Koran says that "Men your wives are your tillage. Go into your
tillage anyway you want". This means that a man is allowed to
sodomise his wife and she cannot complain.
In some countries they even mutilate, cut and sew my female sexual
parts in order to control and regulate my sexual desire.
According to the Islamic Laws, I am supposed to be seen outside of
my home three times in my life. When I am born, when I get married
and when I die.
I have no explanation on why God denied me everything and made men
in charge of me, if there is a God. I don't believe there ever was
In Islam, the age of majority for a girl is 9 years and for a boy is
15 years. This means that a 9 year old girl and a 15 year old boy
are considered to have the same level of maturity. Now, if girls
reach maturity six years earlier than boys, then why did God place
men in charge of women? Was there something wrong with God's
In some Islamic countries such as Iran, if I am arrested for wearing
make-up, the guards will force me to clean my face with cotton balls
rubbed in pieces of glass. This cuts my face. The barbaric
revolutionary guard, while watching the blood run out of my flesh,
will tell me, "next time you think about this and will not wear it".
As a political prisoner I will be used as a concubine for the
revolutionary guards. In case I am condemned to death I will not
undergo the sentence as long as I am a virgin. Thus I will be
systematically raped before the sentence is executed. Mullahs
believe that virgin girls who die go to heaven but politically
inclined girls are ungodly creatures and they do not deserve to go
to heaven, therefore they are raped so that the Mullah's can be sure
that they indeed will be sent to hell.
In Islam, if a 6 or 7 year old girl is raped by an adult man, she
will be the one that gets punished. It is her fault because she
provoked it. The parents then will burn or kill her because she has
dishonored the family.
It has been said that the Moslem Prophet got very upset one day
noticing his wives flirting with men who visited him and ordered
women to stay behind a dividing curtain when speaking with men. The
idea of hijab, the covering up of women, became a law in Islamic
countries from that day.
In 1991, the Prosecutor-General of Iran, declared that "anyone who
rejects the principle of hijab is an apostate and the punishment for
an apostate under Islamic law is death."
Polygamy is legal in Islam. A man may marry "four Permanent" and as
many "Provisional" or temporary wives as he desires.
"Marry such women as seem good to you, two, three, four; but if you
fear you will not be equitable, then only one, or what your right
hands own; so it is likelier you will not be partial". The Koran 4:3
"Most Europeans have mistresses. Why should we suppress human
instincts? A rooster satisfies several hens, an stallion several
mares. A woman is unavailable during certain periods where as a man
is always active....", Ayatollah Ghomi, LE MONDE, January 20, 1979.
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